Sunday, May 31, 2009
The 1828 Noah Webster dictionary says that stress is “to force or drive.” It is “urgency, pressure, importance.” It is “focus, concentration of attention, to emphasize.” When we look at the entire dictionary definition of stress, we learn that stress can be either good or bad. Too much stress will cause us to lose sleep, make us edgy and irritable, and give us high blood pressure. If we don’t feel any stress, we may not be placing any significance on what we are doing. That can be as bad as too much stress. It seems that balance in our lives is the key as far as stress is concerned.
How do we handle relatively minor stressful situations (temporary increase in workload, a small overdraft at the bank, car threatening us with a repair bill, etc.) and adjust it to the proper level? This is one area where our feelings are extremely important. Most of us can sense when we are feeling to much stress, so let’s look at some methods for stress reduction when relatively minor stress producers come along.
You need to identify the cause of stress. Is it a misunderstanding with a coworker or family member? Is it getting so involved in your responsibility that you lose your sense of perspective for everyday facets of a balanced lifestyle? If so, what can you do about it? First, if it’s a people problem, take time to talk it out. Try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes. If you are wrong, admit it and apologize. You won’t lose face. You will gain respect because you have acknowledged that you are wiser today than you were yesterday. Second, find a pressure release. Take time for yourself, even if just a few minutes. Some quiet reading, a good walk, some relaxation, or a shift of scenery can work wonders. Take these steps to relieve that stress.
How do we handle relatively minor stressful situations (temporary increase in workload, a small overdraft at the bank, car threatening us with a repair bill, etc.) and adjust it to the proper level? This is one area where our feelings are extremely important. Most of us can sense when we are feeling to much stress, so let’s look at some methods for stress reduction when relatively minor stress producers come along.
You need to identify the cause of stress. Is it a misunderstanding with a coworker or family member? Is it getting so involved in your responsibility that you lose your sense of perspective for everyday facets of a balanced lifestyle? If so, what can you do about it? First, if it’s a people problem, take time to talk it out. Try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes. If you are wrong, admit it and apologize. You won’t lose face. You will gain respect because you have acknowledged that you are wiser today than you were yesterday. Second, find a pressure release. Take time for yourself, even if just a few minutes. Some quiet reading, a good walk, some relaxation, or a shift of scenery can work wonders. Take these steps to relieve that stress.
kAkA.hUnTeR
We must believe in luck. For how else can we explain the success of those we don't like.
spoke at : 5/31/2009 12:54:00 PM
How Does Your Life Compare?
| Your Life is Better Than 32% of All People |
 Your life can be a bummer at times, but you're on the right track. You may need new friends, a new place to live in, or a new job... But most of all, you need a new outlook. You are your own worst enemy. Start being thankful for what you have - and start working for what you don't. |
spoke at : 5/31/2009 12:52:00 PM
Saturday, May 16, 2009
| Your Home Says That You Feel Unsettled and Free |
 You come across as somewhat intellectual. You can be quite insightful at times. Your hygiene is passable, but you may be hiding some dirty secrets. You are a very domestic person. You enjoy decorating, cooking, and making things homey. You are not a very nurturing person. You have enough trouble taking care of yourself. You don't feel settled in your life yet. You are scrambling to figure things out. You are a somewhat self sufficient person. You can do fine on your own if you have to. Your friends see you as accommodating, peaceful, and forgiving. |
spoke at : 5/16/2009 05:30:00 PM
Wednesday, May 13, 2009
In prosperity, our friends know us. In adversity, we know our friends. The 1828 Noah Webster dictionary says that a friend is “one who is attached to another by affection; one who entertains for another sentiment of esteem, respect and affection, which lead him to desire his company and to seek to promote his happiness and prosperity.” In other words, it means someone who is interested in doing something for another person. A friend is an attendant, a companion, a favorer, one who is propitious. It is a term of salutation.
I agree with the statement that if, at the end of life, we can count at least two people who are friends willing to do anything for us at the drop of a hat, who stand ready when we are hurting or need help, we are indeed fortunate. We can talk with friends about every facet of life – our joys, trials, triumphs, tragedies, hopes, wants and needs. We can make ourselves vulnerable to them, knowing they will always think and act in our best interests. Joseph Addison held that “friendship improves happiness and abates misery by doubling our joy and dividing our grief.” Robert Hall claimed, “He who has made the acquisition of a judicious and sympathizing friend may be said to have doubled his mental resources.”
Since friends and friendships are so valuable, how can you acquire more? If you go out in life looking for friends, they will be hard to find. If you go out in life striving to be a friend, you will find them everywhere. Samuel Johnson said, “If a man does not make new acquaintances as he advances through life, he will soon find himself left alone. A man should keep his friendship in a constant repair.” Follow that advice and you will seldom be lonely.
I agree with the statement that if, at the end of life, we can count at least two people who are friends willing to do anything for us at the drop of a hat, who stand ready when we are hurting or need help, we are indeed fortunate. We can talk with friends about every facet of life – our joys, trials, triumphs, tragedies, hopes, wants and needs. We can make ourselves vulnerable to them, knowing they will always think and act in our best interests. Joseph Addison held that “friendship improves happiness and abates misery by doubling our joy and dividing our grief.” Robert Hall claimed, “He who has made the acquisition of a judicious and sympathizing friend may be said to have doubled his mental resources.”
Since friends and friendships are so valuable, how can you acquire more? If you go out in life looking for friends, they will be hard to find. If you go out in life striving to be a friend, you will find them everywhere. Samuel Johnson said, “If a man does not make new acquaintances as he advances through life, he will soon find himself left alone. A man should keep his friendship in a constant repair.” Follow that advice and you will seldom be lonely.
kAkA.hUnTeR
Trust is easier to destroy than create.
spoke at : 5/13/2009 09:07:00 AM
Friday, May 01, 2009
Happy Birthday, Wee Hou!! Good luck for your exams!
kAkA.hUnTeR
Jia You!
spoke at : 5/01/2009 03:30:00 PM
